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Feelings about Job Loss

by Beverly Baskin, Ed.S, MA, NCCC

Director and Career Counselor, Baskin Business and Career Services
Marlboro, Princeton, and Woodbridge, New Jersey

According to the Social Adjustment Scale by Holmes, job loss is the one of the top three stressors in a persons life. People often have feelings similar to those of grieving or mourning and listed below are the stages of grief:

1) Shock

2) Denial

3) Anger

4) Bargaining - Asking the company to take you back

5) Isolation

6) Depression

7) Finally - Acceptance, Reintegration, and Renewal

Please Note: Every person has his or her own time table as to when they reach the stage of acceptance. People go through a roller coaster ride of emotions in no particular order, and at different times of the job search process. The important thing to remember is that all of these feelings are normal and part of the grieving process associated with any type of loss. If you are wondering what is "normal" in terms of your emotions, or you are having emotions that are taking a toll on you or your family, you may want to discuss your feelings with a professional counselor.

Choices Regarding Re-employment

  • Same Job, Different Industry
  • Different Job, Different Industry
  • Owning Your Own Business

Your Ideal Job: Ability plus enjoyment = Strength

Your interests and abilities intersect with the current marketplace

Some Tips...

  • Think of at least 50 contacts - a contact is someone who knows a lot of people, not necessarily someone who is in your industry. A contact is a friend, neighbor, doctor, dentist, travel agent, etc.
  • When speaking to potential networking contacts, instead of asking for a job, try to ask for help and suggestions. In this way, even if there aren’t any jobs available in the company, the person can help you by giving you the names of two or three people that he or she knows.
  • Instead of asking for a favor, ask for a person’s advice.
  • Set small, reachable goals for yourself.
  • Send a thank you note after an interview.
  • If you want to talk with a hiring authority on the telephone, (other than personnel) you might have a better chance of speaking with him or her if you call before 9 AM or after 5 PM.
  • Remember to be good to yourself: Exercise, eat right; try to put "balance" into your personal life. You will survive this transition, and perhaps you might obtain a higher paying position.

Beverly Baskin, ED.S, LPC, MCC, NCCC, CPRW

Mitchell Baskin,

"Mitch: I am extremely Impressed! You and your company did a fantastic job with my resume! When the opportunity to advance in my career presents itself, I know I have a great resume to get me noticed. I can see why you've had such a successful run in your 17 year history! Thanks again for all your help!"

David R.

"Mr Baskin, First, I wanted to thank you for your help with my resume. In the past two weeks I have had more responses than last year. I have an interview this Friday with a medical equipment company. I was wondering if you could help me prepare for the interview."

Thank you, Wendy C.

"Mitch: It looks great. I am considering your services to compile a list of smaller hedge funds, some local and some in Manhattan to target for employment opportunities. I hope to hear from you soon."

Sincerely, Charles F.

"Mitch, just wanted to drop you a line to let you know one of your letters has developed into a new job for me. In fact those letters continue to generate phone calls and although I have taken this position, I'm staying in contact with a number of firms recommending candidates or other business solutions for them to more or less maintain a network contact. Thanks for all your help and I'll be sure to recommend you at any opportunity."

All the best, Bob D.


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